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DEAR FAT PEOPLE! Now that I have your attention this is my response to the controversial video posted on You Tube by “Comedienne” Nicole Arbour. Although many have commented on the video and although it has been said many times it is an example of fat shaming, done in the most derogatory, insulting and hurtful way. It is obvious in her delivery that Arbour’s whole point was to create a social media buzz, as negative as it may have been, what’s that saying “ There’s no such thing as bad publicity” just ask the Kardashians, so we can go on talking about Nicole Arbour, how bad it was and why she did it but then we would be just feeding the controversy. It’s really in her rational that I have a problem,

As a former “Fattie” having lost 100lbs and kept it off, but someone who also still struggles with her own body image issues is you can’t make assumptions and generalizations about all overweight and obese people. There are many reasons for a person to be overweight whether it’s genetic, or health related, are they an emotional eater? Is it to medical condition they are suffering from? These are some of the questions she and others should ask themselves before they judge others for their own amusement and make assumptions many most of the time aren’t true.

Not all fat people are obese, not all fat people are lazy, and not all fat people eat a lot. In her video Arbour makes all of these assumptions and more. If you have to judge someone to make yourself feel better about yourself or think it’s funny it’s just your own insecurities that will come to light and like many have said if you have to say you’re a “comedienne” 20 times throughout your video you become the butt of the joke because many of us missed your punch line.

Everybody has their breaking point, or moment of transformation where they want to change their life and take that step to lose weight to get healthier, fitter, look better, so many take longer than others or never decide to change but that’s not anyone to judge. For me, the breaking point was the number on the scale and not being able to recognize myself in the mirror. Dealing with what made me overweight a medical condition and the medication I was on was hard to deal with and I am proud of what I was able to accomplish and do but it isn’t easy every day is a struggle to reach goals and get where I want to be and it takes effort, determination and belief that you can get there. Even with the weight loss, I have experienced skinny-shaming for those who can’t understand why I want to be fit or healthy or look good, but it’s not about them understanding it’s about what I want and what makes me happy. I have good days and I have bad days, but I will never go back to where I used to be. I might never hit the number I want or be Miss America, but I won’t stop making goals or chasing my dreams and what is important to me. I don’t think someone like Nicole Arbour should judge anybody because you can be pretty on the outside, but ugly on the inside and what Arbour has done is nothing but ugly, so before you judge someone, look inside yourself first.


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